Re: [ozmidwifery] Rape by stealth (longish)

[Aviva Sheb'a]

Hi, Julie,   Pity your husband didn't hit the git! (well put). Go get 'm. This needs to stop and it will only stop when women, men, midwives et al jump up and down about it. Boing, boing, boing (that's me, jumping up and down). Aviva ----- Original Message ----- From: Julie Garratt To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Sunday, October 20, 2002 12:07 AM Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Rape by stealth (longish) OH MY GOD!!!!!!,                       This awful thing happened to me also I was in the QVH and the date was the 10/5/90 I had a hind leak so I was told that because of the risk of infection that I would have to be induced I was 4 weeks early!. A Curly haired GIT of a doctor came in and said that he had to rupture my waters properly to speed things up. "I was only telling this story at birth matters the other day!!!" IT WAS AGONY I thought at the time that this must be what Rape and toucher is like. I remember that he had very big hands and that my husband who could see how much pain I was in wanted to hit him. I have never experienced PAIN like that in my life. Maybe I should find out what his name was, I suppose it would be in the hospital notes. What if it's the same Doctor? we should find out. This vile thing shouldn't ever be allowed to happen again.   If you want to take it further I'm right beside you!   Julie Garratt.   ----- Original Message ----- From: Larry & Megan Sent: Saturday, 19 October 2002 11:26 PM To: ozmidwifery Subject: [ozmidwifery] Rape by stealth (longish)   Can I burrow some wisdom from the list? I have just visited my friend and her new baby in hospital. Her doctor suggested she be induced a week early because her baby was looking like being a good 9lb plus?(her first was 9lb). She trusted his wisdom and went ahead, having gels late evening and the following morning, nothing happening. At 1pm he broke her waters. This bit I am appaled at. He has very large hands, and the agony it caused her was awful, even to the point of screaming at him to stop. He didn't. Eventually labour started and late that evening with the aid of an epidural she birthed a lovely little boy, weighing only 8lb5oz. Mum and baby doing well. I asked her if he commented on the weight , of course he hasn't and they don't want to say anything. She was induced for no good reason. She described the ARM as what she imagines being raped would feel like, (I guess physically and emotionally) this will also not be passed on to him. I feel that she was raped and there is nothing I can do about it. I can't force her to acknowledge what happened, her and hubby are relatively happy and she has a beautiful baby that neeeds her. It is safer for them to think of it as a medical procedure because if you acknowledge it as rape, who is going to help them deal with it all. How many women and men experience this? This doctor will never know how he made her feel and can continue to practice like this because the silence says it is OK. I am so frustrated and sad that she had to experience it at all. It reinforces my belief in NMAP and the need for women to have the very best of care. thanks, I just needed to vent off, my husbands ears are tired, Megan. -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. Get more from the Web. FREE MSN Explorer download : http://explorer.msn.com