----- Original Message -----
Sent: Sunday, October 20, 2002 1:37
AM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Rape by
stealth (longish)
Hi, Julie,
Pity your husband didn't hit the git! (well put). Go
get 'm. This needs to stop and it will only stop when women, men, midwives et
al jump up and down about it.
Boing, boing, boing (that's me, jumping up and
down).
Aviva
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Sunday, October 20, 2002 12:07 AM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Rape by stealth (longish)
OH MY GOD!!!!!!,
This awful thing happened to me also I was in the QVH and the date was the
10/5/90 I had a hind leak so I was told that because of the risk of infection
that I would have to be induced I was 4 weeks early!. A Curly haired GIT of a
doctor came in and said that he had to rupture my waters properly to speed
things up. "I was only telling this story at birth matters the other day!!!"
IT WAS AGONY I thought at the time that this must be what Rape
and toucher is like. I remember that he had very big hands and that my
husband who could see how much pain I was in wanted to hit him. I have never
experienced PAIN like that in my life. Maybe I should find out what his name
was, I suppose it would be in the hospital notes. What if it's the same
Doctor? we should find out. This vile thing shouldn't ever be allowed to
happen again.
If you want to take it further I'm right beside you!
Julie Garratt.
----- Original Message -----
From:
Larry & Megan
Sent: Saturday, 19 October 2002 11:26
PM
To: ozmidwifery
Subject: [ozmidwifery] Rape by stealth
(longish)
Can I burrow some wisdom from the list?
I have just
visited my friend and her new baby in hospital. Her doctor
suggested she
be induced a week early because her baby was looking like
being a good
9lb plus?(her first was 9lb). She trusted his wisdom and went
ahead,
having gels late evening and the following morning, nothing
happening. At
1pm he broke her waters. This bit I am appaled at. He has very
large
hands, and the agony it caused her was awful, even to the point
of
screaming at him to stop. He didn't. Eventually labour started and
late that
evening with the aid of an epidural she birthed a lovely little
boy,
weighing only 8lb5oz. Mum and baby doing well.
I asked her if he
commented on the weight , of course he hasn't and they
don't want to say
anything. She was induced for no good reason. She
described the ARM as
what she imagines being raped would feel like, (I guess
physically and
emotionally) this will also not be passed on to him.
I feel that she was
raped and there is nothing I can do about it. I can't
force her to
acknowledge what happened, her and hubby are relatively happy
and she has
a beautiful baby that neeeds her. It is safer for them to think
of it as
a medical procedure because if you acknowledge it as rape, who is
going
to help them deal with it all. How many women and men experience
this?
This doctor will never know how he made her feel and can continue
to
practice like this because the silence says it is OK. I am so
frustrated and
sad that she had to experience it at all.
It
reinforces my belief in NMAP and the need for women to have the very
best
of care.
thanks, I just needed to vent off, my husbands ears
are tired,
Megan.
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