Dave, you have expressed our dilemma most eloquently. I want so much to have that old drive back, but too much trauma and too many years (55) have taken their toll. I also find that I have grown considerably weaker the past few years. The old gray mule, he aint what he used to be.
To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]: Re: [QUAD-L] Warning.....Sexual.Date: Wed, 19 Dec 2007 21:38:15 -0500From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Funny how 40 years of SCI, 35 years of happy marriage, three kids and foleys can dampen the 'urge' so it mostly goes away. Intimacy gives way to stability and security, lust turns into gratitude for what lengthy cohabitation brings, and the spark is kept alive by total strangers that cast that special look and sometimes add a wink. it's very nice to you can still turn a head but have no obligation to prove anything. the great part is she knows i look, i know she knows and she knows i know she knows - and we're both cool with it. she knows that just because i'm on a diet, it's ok if i look at the menu. no matter where i get my appetite, i always come home for dinner. Dave -----Original Message-----From: Lori Michaelson <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]: Mon, 17 Dec 2007 7:17 pmSubject: Re: [QUAD-L] Warning.....Sexual. I don't think that too many members on the list are brave enough to respond to this one. Thus the tiny thread. While microphones or things like that are more important! LOL I know the topic of sex has been brought up before but it does not go anywhere usually. So either members are not having sex or are not with a partner. :-) Some folks will say that sex plays an important role in a relationship... especially for the one who is not getting any! Others will say that sex is most definitely, and I mean most definitely, NOT a great big thing in a good relationship. Actually, it is a little bit of both. It is not that both partners do not WANT OR ENJOY sex... because it can be very exciting and joyful. And it should be! You are also right that the brain is the most powerful sex organ. This is even more true for women. Women have no idea and (cannot have any idea) what orgasm for a man (ejaculation) feels like and vice versa. Obviously for women it is the clitoris for the sensation part of it and the brain for the mega part of it. I remember one of my most powerful orgasms after my injury (I had just turned 15 when my injury occurred so nothing happened before that) occurred when my partner did something around my ear, neck and my collarbone area that set me through the ceiling and was definitely an orgasm if I ever had one!!! So that is one example. For women... those are extremely, extremely, extremely sensitive areas and probably just as much as the clitoris. But the actual intercourse part of it is a combination of so many things. The noises, the whispers, the words, the motions, etc. etc. etc. all help one to cum. "Feeling sexy" for women plays a huge part as well. For example... having a négligée or a bra slid so very slowly down the shoulders is really really erotic! Or pressing up and around the breasts at the same time or during something else also adds to the beginning of a climax. I could go on and on and on. But don't anyone fool themselves by thinking that sex is not important to some degree to their partner. There IS a reason for masturbation! And nobody should feel threatened because their partner does that. So... all the rest of you scaredy-cats... bring it on! On Dec 15, 2007 5:37 PM, < [EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: Hello guys, Let me get right to it. This morning I was in the middle of the most erotic dream I have ever had since my injury when I was awaken just at the moment we long to remember (the big orgasm). This dream felt soooo real that when I woke up I felt just (well, pretty darn close) like I had a real orgasm, tingling all over and my insides were too. You know that feeling after you cum and you're so sensitive that you just can't take another touch. That! I think I was moaning just before I woke up also, because I opened my eyes thinking 'oh shit did my wife just hear me. I know they say your brain is the most powerful sex organ but damn, I wasn't expecting it to be like that.My question is have any of you ever experience this and if so how can you recreate it? Larry, C5 More new features than ever. Check out the new AIM(R) Mail! More new features than ever. Check out the new AOL Mail! _________________________________________________________________ Get the power of Windows + Web with the new Windows Live. http://www.windowslive.com?ocid=TXT_TAGHM_Wave2_powerofwindows_122007
