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From: diannal767 <[email protected]>
To: wheelchair <[email protected]>
Sent: Sat, Oct 5, 2013 1:30 pm
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Spouse as Caregiver?
If I had it all over to do again, I wouldn't have my spouse be my caregiver.
At the time though we had a business which wiped us out of a lot of resources
for us, We were led to believe if we wanted care, we'd have to pay for it. All
went well for about 10 yrs than Dave got caregiver burnout, we divorced plus he
wanted more than a quad woman could give. He tried the dating scene (yes, it
was hard on me). Now he's an Independent Care Provider. Yes, mine. It's hard to
explain to people we are not a couple. My granddaughter thinks he is. He has
been an excellent care provider, 23 yrs of quadhood, now cancer. But, NO, I
don't suggest it. In Dec., we would've been together 40 yrs.
Dianna
I'm sure this topic has been discussed before, but:
Those of you who are married or in a serious relationship: do you choose to
have your husband/wife as your primary caregiver or have an outside caregiver?
I've heard and read that it is best not to have your spouse as your primary
caregiver because it changes the dynamic of the relationship (assuming you
were together before your injury), but I'm not sure if that's true.
Your thoughts and experiences in this matter will be very helpful.
Thank you,
Don.
-----Original Message-----
From: wheelchair <[email protected]>
To: quad-list <[email protected]>
Sent: Fri, Oct 4, 2013 6:05 pm
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Spouse as Caregiver?
Thank You Don. You are most correct in the change of relationship dynamics.
Granted, there are exception to each and every rule, but I know of no study
that disputes those findings. Love can be blind for only so long. Where there
is a way... you will also find a will.
Best Wishes
In a message dated 10/4/2013 3:53:21 P.M. Central Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
I'm sure this topic has been discussed before, but:
Those of you who are married or in a serious relationship: do you choose to
have your husband/wife as your primary caregiver or have an outside caregiver?
I've heard and read that it is best not to have your spouse as your primary
caregiver because it changes the dynamic of the relationship (assuming you
were together before your injury), but I'm not sure if that's true.
Your thoughts and experiences in this matter will be very helpful.
Thank you,
Don.
