In point of fact, no! The boy not once asked why. If he had, my response
would have been completely different. I do not have a problem explaining a
reason and often give a reason or explain without being asked. AFTER a command is carried out.
I don't command my children - and my words to them are not commands. They are simply directions to be followed - sometimes with explanation, sometimes not.
It is not a child's place to question before obedience. If a car is rushing at a child
and I yell at him to get out of the street, and he has beenHe MUST be willing to obey instantly
trained to ask why, the question will kill him.
and completely.
He shouldn't have been in the street in the first place - why didn't you teach him that? And why would you stand there and just yell at your child to move - wouldn't you go after him?
And he must trust that he will get an answer if he
asks. But to immediately say the adult erred is a grave disrespect of his position as an adult.
Adults can't make mistakes? Why does being an adult make him any better than a child?
Michael
