Suresh, First of all zen is not a religion. Zen is concerned with dissolving illusions and revealing Buddha Nature. The concept of spirituality is an illusion so any attachments you have to spirituality should be dissolved. One way to do that and the best way I know is zazen (zen meditation).
Second of all feelings of sexual arousal are not illusions. They are bodily functions, the same as hunger, thirst, weariness, etc... These are not something you need to avoid, nor are they 'bad'. What you do need to avoid is forming or reinforcing ATTACHMENTS to them. What do you do when you're hungry, thirsty or sleepy? You eat, drink or sleep - but you don't have to eat or drink or sleep IMMEDIATELY when you first feel these things. You are able (presumably)to postpone their fulfillment to a time when that is appropriate. It's the same with sexual desires. Postpone their fulfillment to a time when it is more appropriate, or if that is just not possible then masturbate. If you think masturbation is 'bad' or 'dirty' or for some other reason should be 'avoided', then that is an attachment you have to some 'moral' code that you should work to dissolve - through zazen. ...Bill! --- In [email protected], SURESH JAGADEESAN <varamtha@...> wrote: > > Dear Bill > > Even though I talk more on spiritual, I still have sex feeling, how to over > come this? Especially when I am alone, especially on office tours in Hotel > rooms I like to watch at least few minutes porn on net. Now it is reduced a > great extent, but at least for 5 minutes I watch and then I got fed up and > read some thing else. Can you all advise me how to avoid this? > > Best wishes > Suresh > ------------------------------------ Current Book Discussion: any Zen book that you recently have read or are reading! Talk about it today!Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Zen_Forum/ <*> Your email settings: Individual Email | Traditional <*> To change settings online go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Zen_Forum/join (Yahoo! ID required) <*> To change settings via email: [email protected] [email protected] <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [email protected] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
