Bill, That's right Suresh. Bill is saying and I agree it's the guilt and worry that is the attachment, not the act itself..
Aw, get your hands back on the keyboard Bill! Naughty, naughty boy! :-) Edgar On Oct 24, 2012, at 9:26 PM, Bill! wrote: > Suresh, > > First of all zen is not a religion. Zen is concerned with dissolving > illusions and revealing Buddha Nature. The concept of spirituality is an > illusion so any attachments you have to spirituality should be dissolved. One > way to do that and the best way I know is zazen (zen meditation). > > Second of all feelings of sexual arousal are not illusions. They are bodily > functions, the same as hunger, thirst, weariness, etc... These are not > something you need to avoid, nor are they 'bad'. What you do need to avoid is > forming or reinforcing ATTACHMENTS to them. > > What do you do when you're hungry, thirsty or sleepy? You eat, drink or sleep > - but you don't have to eat or drink or sleep IMMEDIATELY when you first feel > these things. You are able (presumably)to postpone their fulfillment to a > time when that is appropriate. It's the same with sexual desires. Postpone > their fulfillment to a time when it is more appropriate, or if that is just > not possible then masturbate. > > If you think masturbation is 'bad' or 'dirty' or for some other reason should > be 'avoided', then that is an attachment you have to some 'moral' code that > you should work to dissolve - through zazen. > > ...Bill! > > --- In [email protected], SURESH JAGADEESAN <varamtha@...> wrote: > > > > Dear Bill > > > > Even though I talk more on spiritual, I still have sex feeling, how to over > > come this? Especially when I am alone, especially on office tours in Hotel > > rooms I like to watch at least few minutes porn on net. Now it is reduced a > > great extent, but at least for 5 minutes I watch and then I got fed up and > > read some thing else. Can you all advise me how to avoid this? > > > > Best wishes > > Suresh > > > >
