Im wondering how one finds the balance between assertiveness and speaking the truth of how you feel( where the other person will become defensive and feel judged ) ... vs. remaining unaffected when someone offends you and trying to let it pass through you .( And then the offending keeps representing itself in different ways over and over again. So, if you are trying to practice right speech and the other person you are communicating with has no regard for being truthful ...how are you supposed to remain composed and what is the mindset as far as why this person would act so insulting . I mean do you give compassion to this person. How do you neutralize situations like this in all forms of relationships whether it be a boss with a huge ego or a stranger who tells you off because he thinks you cut him off in line ...to the more personal with family members like the intrusive mother in law .This is a obstacle for me and I welcome all thoughts or answers to this . I think if I can figure this out it will solve a lot for me.
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