Hello Members, Looks like we are having a great debate on this topic. Sighted or not Male or Female for everyone matrimony is a challenging affair. There is always a quest to find the perfect partner. Here the definition of a perfect partner is different from person to person. Some might define it as someone who is good looking, rich or for someone else it might just be loving and caring. In India marriage is not between individuals but between two families, cultures and other undiscussable areas. Thus the couple must meet too many expectations to be the perfect bride, bridegroom, husband, wife, son in law, daughter in law, brother in law, sister in law etc...
By now I am sure that you might have got the message on what I am trying to tell you. Our disability does not add value in such a situation but is an added challenge to the search for that perfect partner. It is definitely a good practise to disclose the disability before marriage rather than getting married and then being abandoned after the truth being found leading to more emotional and social complications. It is a matter of personal interest for every individual to think about matrimony after a certain age. I will not call it discrimination when it comes to choosing a partner because everyone has a comfort zone when it comes to company for the life. Here choosing a sighted or non sighted partner should not be of any concern as long as the individuals are comfortable with the arrangement and are clear on what to expect and what not to expect in the beginning of the relationship. No matter what we try we cannot curb the chances of a marriage failing if it has to and was ment to end up a failure. After all, the individuals are mature enough to decide what is the bigger picture in their marriage and if their relationship means something to them they will follow through no matter what challenges they as a couple face. Relooking through the definition of marriage I think the Christian vows of matrimony sum it all and they are as follows: Through sickness and Health, For better or worse and till death do us apart. Enough said from me on this never ending debatable topic. I am no matrimony guru or someone who can guide you to a perfect partner or life. I can just share this note with you all and make you think more on the subject. So keep those thoughts coming and wishing you all the best in your search for a partner! Mujtaba Merchant Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ To unsubscribe send a message to [email protected] with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in
