I do agree marriage or companionship is an important part of our lives, but we shouldn't base our happiness on someone's acceptance or rejection of us. Of course, it may make us feel disappointed or point to our disability, but we are our own person and no one has the divine right to hurt us that way. If you think only marriage or getting a companion would make you happy, ask those married and they would tell you it need not necessarily be true. Getting a life partner is something that happens in the process of living, or, those lucky amongst us get to spend time with someone chosen for us a lifetime learning about her/him. If it happens, it happens. Don't get desperate and marry someone to prove a point, this would be disastrous. Also, don't get rejections get to you. Believe me, disability is only a convenient excuse for many people to reject you. If you really seen as someone valuable in some way, surely the person who is able to understand that would take you as his/her life partner. Happiness is key to everything. If you are complaining and are unhappy, how do you expect to let someone know that living with you is the happiest thing? So essential thing is to be happy and drift like a feather in the wind, you will find the right tree. Certain things in life are best left to the control of the divine who has given us the intelligence, job and position to care for ourselves. remember, these are the things we never thought we would have for ourselves once upon a time (which is true for me at least).
Subbu On 12/11/11, ss sarfudeen <[email protected]> wrote: > Dear members. > > I totally agree with the view expressed by Bhawani Shankar Verma > earlier about the plight of the disabled partner irrespective of the > gender. It is in fact, worse for the VI women. Whether in love or in > marriage, the sighted person at some stage, rejects their disabled > partner. Another side of this reality is that even if the sighted > person willingly accepts their disabled partner, they get greatly > influenced by their family and friends in making their decisions to > reject them as these so called family and friends feel that leading a > happy married life with a vision impaired person is not possible at > all. > I am not saying this without any factual evidences. > > Regards > > Sultana. > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > [email protected] > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > -- L. Subramani, Snr. Subeditor, Deccan Herald, Bangalore, M: 91-9886046612 "You see and ask why? I dream and ask why not?" Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ To unsubscribe send a message to [email protected] with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in
