i entirely agree with you. we should not make extreme opinions. the chemistry of a relationship is different between 2 couples--be it in marriage or in love. so painting all with same brush is a bit unfair. what, according to me, is most important is to keep faith in oneself and one's own judgements. i've related my story with you and i must admit that i was partly wrong in my decision making. i've accepted it and moved on in my life
with warm regards, Anirban Mukherjee,mobile:09433305139. On 12/12/11, Mujtaba Merchant <mujta...@gmail.com> wrote: > Hello Members, > > Looks like we are having a great debate on this topic. Sighted or not Male > or Female for everyone matrimony is a challenging affair. There is always a > quest to find the perfect partner. Here the definition of a perfect partner > is different from person to person. Some might define it as someone who is > good looking, rich or for someone else it might just be loving and caring. > In India marriage is not between individuals but between two families, > cultures and other undiscussable areas. Thus the couple must meet too many > expectations to be the perfect bride, bridegroom, husband, wife, son in law, > daughter in law, brother in law, sister in law etc... > > By now I am sure that you might have got the message on what I am trying to > tell you. Our disability does not add value in such a situation but is an > added challenge to the search for that perfect partner. It is definitely a > good practise to disclose the disability before marriage rather than > getting married and then being abandoned after the truth being found leading > to more emotional and social complications. It is a matter of personal > interest for every individual to think about matrimony after a certain age. > I will not call it discrimination when it comes to choosing a partner > because everyone has a comfort zone when it comes to company for the life. > Here choosing a sighted or non sighted partner should not be of any concern > as long as the individuals are comfortable with the arrangement and are > clear on what to expect and what not to expect in the beginning of the > relationship. No matter what we try we cannot curb the chances of a marriage > failing if it has to and was ment to end up a failure. After all, the > individuals are mature enough to decide what is the bigger picture in their > marriage and if their relationship means something to them they will follow > through no matter what challenges they as a couple face. Relooking through > the definition of marriage I think the Christian vows of matrimony sum it > all and they are as follows: Through sickness and Health, For better or > worse and till death do us apart. > > Enough said from me on this never ending debatable topic. I am no matrimony > guru or someone who can guide you to a perfect partner or life. I can just > share this note with you all and make you think more on the subject. So keep > those thoughts coming and wishing you all the best in your search for a > partner! > > Mujtaba Merchant > > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in
