Wow a lot of good support here. I had to do the same thing with my mom, made some hard moves (like moving 1,300 mile to care for her at home) but I had to put her in a nursing home also. We could not care for her either she had dementia and MS in its final, horrible stages. She asked to come home almost every day when I visited her. I talked to the Dr.s about this and they told me that a lot of people in nursing homes with the dementia remember that EVERYTHING WAS GREAT WHEN THEY LIVED AT HOME,so that is where they want to be, and in their mind everything will be fine if they can get Back Home.
My mom had not been able to drive for 10 years or walk for 4 years before she went into the nursing home, but when we had our talks about going home she was positive that she could care for herself and walk and drive (if we would giver her car keys back) It was these discussions that got me talking with the Dr's asking "why does she belive that she can do this at home when EVERYTHING from going to the bathroom to eating needs to be done with assistance and they told me about the "If I am home I will be OK" Finding this out for me made a difference in understanding moms desires to go home and it made it a little easier. Stay well, Stay strong, and keep on visiting mom, it is great that you can bring her home with you and you choose to do so! On Feb 3, 9:05 am, "[email protected]" <[email protected]> wrote: > thanks, everyone, that really helps a lot. really. a. lot. > > Thank you. > > and, Gosh, a pony ride sounds like the best thing ever right now!! :) > > On Feb 3, 9:00 am, Joe Gola <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > Sorry you're feeling sad, Jess. It sounds like you've done the best > > thing possible, but I know that that doesn't always make the emotional > > situation easier. > > > If you need a pony ride, let me know and I'll send Jingles over.- Hide > > quoted text - > > - Show quoted text - --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "BGG Down" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/BGG_down?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
