We put that sign in the women's room because it's not just about declining a dance. It's about having permission to say no, AND what to do about creepy behavior. There's a sign in the men's room about creepy behavior. We haven't specifically addressed the issue of declining a dance with the whole community yet.
-Amy On Dec 19, 2017 6:16 AM, "Read Weaver" <[email protected]> wrote: > Why do you only put this in the women’s room? Perhaps you live somewhere > where it’s unusual for a woman to ask a man to dance, but you say your sign > goes on to say to find a dancer you want to dance with. And while I don’t > question that men are more likely to do things to make a female partner > uncomfortable, the reverse isn’t unheard of. And even if that never > happened, putting it in both restrooms would let the men know what to > expect. > > Read Weaver > Jamaica Plain, MA > http://lcfd.org > > > On Dec 17, 2017, at 12:30 PM, Amy Wimmer via Callers < > [email protected]> wrote: > > > > Greetings All, > > > > I really like JD's methods. When teaching I do an abbreviated version of > that, but I think I'll expand it to include a _kind_ refusal, and universal > participation during the lesson. > > > > My husband and I are dance organizers, and for several years have been > working hard to make the atmosphere of the dance welcoming and safe for > all. We have signs in the restrooms about behavior. The one in the women's > states that if one doesn't want to dance with someone, for any reason, it > is best to be quick about it, saying, "No, thank you," so the ask-er has > time to find a different partner. Skip the lengthy excuse, then find a > partner you _want_ to dance with. > > > > Also, at the end of a dance, I often encourage people to invite someone > who's sitting out to dance. Every once in a while I ask new folks to > identify themselves, then ask experienced dancers to dance with them. > > > > -Amy > >
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