No doubt. And this should not have needed to be said.

Dana

Heald, Tim writes:

> I can say that Mike is a great father.  Also, I wasn't ready to be a father
> when Chrissie got pregnant the first time, but I even had it easier than
> Mike did.  I was in the Army, we were married and she was 25, and I 26.  We
> had already tasted responsibility.
> 
> I might not always like his politics but seriously have nothing but respect
> for him as a man.
> 
> Timothy Heald
> Information Systems Specialist
> Overseas Security Advisory Council
> U.S. Department of State
> 571.345.2235
> 
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Kevin Schmidt [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> Sent: Tuesday, August 05, 2003 4:12 PM
> To: CF-Community
> Subject: Yet another scumbag parent....
> 
> 
> I love it so when one recognizes my higher than average IQ, it always makes
> me feel warm and fuzzy.  
> 
> Perhaps I was a bit harsh.  I was meaning to refer to society as a whole
> when it comes to responsibiliy.  However, it did seem as though you
> mentioned you weren't ready to be a parent.  All I said was that you like
> everyone else have to assume responsibility for your actions, in which case
> you did.  My beef is with those who want others to coddle them when they
> make mistakes and expect me to pay for those mistakes.  
> 
> Now about you using my tax dollars, we all use each others tax dollars every
> day, now whether I agree with some of those uses is another story.
> 
> Kevin
> 
> 
> >Good response, genius! I am probably one of the most responsible people
> >you will ever speak to, and have had to do a lot more with a lot less
> >than most people.
> >
> >Now, when did your tax dollars ever benefit me? It sounds like you are
> >saying I was on welfare, are you saying I was on welfare?
> >
> >M
> >
> >-----Original Message-----
> >From: Kevin Schmidt [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] 
> >Sent: Tuesday, August 05, 2003 3:40 PM
> >To: CF-Community
> >Subject: Yet another scumbag parent....
> >
> >
> >Your correct, what form of contraception you use isn't the issue.  The
> >issue is taking responsibility for your actions.  The action of having a
> >child is one that requires responsibility.  There is all too often a
> >tendency for us as a society to shirk our responsibility.  However, if
> >you realized you weren't ready for that responsibility as you stated in
> >your email, and obviously realized, there was nine months for you to
> >take care of that.  If you weren't ready, than why should I have to
> >spend my tax dollars to handle your irresponsibility.  People need to
> >realize that there are consequences for their actions, and until we
> >reach that point, someone is going to try to keep reaching into my
> >pocket to pay for others irresponsibility and I am going to do my best
> >to keep their hands out.
> >
> >>Finally, and this is the last thing I want to talk to you about, the 
> >>form and frequency of my choice of contraceptive device when I'm 
> >>getting' it on is completely unrelated to the issue at hand. In the 
> >>case of how my daughter was conceived, I cannot think of a reason you 
> >>need to know the details of that event. Kindly get your mind out of my 
> >>pants.
> >>
> >>M
> >>
> >>-----Original Message-----
> >>From: Kevin Schmidt [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> >>Sent: Tuesday, August 05, 2003 2:45 PM
> >>To: CF-Community
> >>Subject: Yet another scumbag parent....
> >>
> >>
> >> I think people having to get a license to be a parent is an
> >>>interesting approach to cutting the link between violent crime and
> >>>child abuse. Even if only a percent of a percent of children benefit 
> >>>from such a program, it would be worthwhile.
> >>
> >>Once again, let's legislate for the minority.
> >>
> >>>
> >>
> >>>Also, think about the parents you know. How many of them started off
> >>>ready to be parents?
> >>
> >>So, Mike, you weren't planning on having the kid right?  So how would 
> >>of having a license helped?  We gonna put everyone on government 
> >>regulated birth control.  I am sure the ACLU would love that. Then and 
> >>only then when you have a license you can go off birth control?
> >>
> >>In my case, I was a college student who had never
> >>>had to balance a budget, cook a meal more substantial than ramen
> >>>noodles, or keep house. Suddenly, I had to feed and clothe a child. 
> >>>That's a big transition.
> >>
> >>Growing up fast is hard isn't it.  I don't know your situation, but 
> >>would you have had the same problem had you been responsible about 
> >>birth control?  With every action, there is a responsibility to be 
> >>taken.  In your case, you now have a child that you are responsible 
> >>for.
> >>
> >> Learning these things was a lot of trial and
> >>>error, and has led to some pretty tough situations. Sometimes the
> >>>experience was overwhelming, and I could see how some people could
> >just
> >>
> >>>lose it and go overboard on their kids.
> >>
> >>I had my son at 23, and I have never once come across a situation where
> >
> >>I thought I was going to "lose it."
> >>
> >>
> >> A little more knowledge of how
> >>>to deal with the challenges beforehand might go a long way in the more
> >>>tragic cases.
> >>
> >>Fine, you have nine months before the kid is born, that's nine months 
> >>of knowledge you can garner.
> >>
> >>
> >>And let's face it - 30% of children in America are born
> >>>out of wedlock, it's not like they are necessarily getting these 
> >>>skills
> >>
> >>>at home.
> >>
> >>So, it should be the governments role to step in and tell you how to 
> >>live your life and how to raise your kids?  Not in my household.
> >>
> >>>
> >>>Other countries have mandantory military programs where you go on
> >>>active duty for 2 years when you turn 18. This idea, while it may seem
> >
> >>>like something that only benefits a few people, actually serves the 
> >>>same end, that the common good can be upheld through vigorous 
> >>>preparation of young adults.
> >>
> >>I don't necessarily agree with that.  I think responsibility is 
> >>something parents must impart, or you learn the hard way.  We don't 
> >>need the government teaching us that.  They already fail us in our 
> >>educations, why not let them fail us in teaching responsibility too.
> >>
> >>
> >>
> >>>
> >>>M
> >>>
> >>>-----Original Message-----
> >>>From: Heald, Tim [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> >>>Sent: Tuesday, August 05, 2003 1:54 PM
> >>>To: CF-Community
> >>>Subject: RE: Yet another scumbag parent....
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>That we put away a higher percentage than most nations is probably
> >>>true, but I would take exception to it mainly being violent crime.
> >The
> >>
> >>>last time I was paying attention the major reasons for most
> >>>incarcerations were victimless crimes, usually related to drugs.
> >>>
> >>>If we legalized drugs and prostitution than we would no longer have to
> >>>spend all that money on enforcement and punishment, and we would be 
> >>>able to tax it like we do cigarettes and alcohol.
> >>>
> >>>Timothy Heald
> >>>Information Systems Specialist
> >>>Overseas Security Advisory Council
> >>>U.S. Department of State
> >>>571.345.2235
> >>>
> >>
> >
> 
> 
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