Hi Rose,

> A hot shot attorney at work has been a huge support to me. It's funny how
you find that in the
> strangest places.

Wally K's words are full of wisdom.  In my experience with particularly
tortuous loss and grief, it was also the least likely people in my life who
were the best medicine and support.  I have a friend right now who is going
through a situation much like yours.  She was one of the unlikely ones who
helped me a few years ago, so now I want to return the support as best I
can.  I know those feelings of seething rage and resentment and finally
learned that the more one focuses on them, the longer they last because they
have a toxic way of being self-perpetuating. I've had friends ask me at
times how I ever finally got over certain bad times and in some cases it was
because I simply got sick and tired of listening to myself focus on them!
One day you will be there, too, Rose, and it will all be good.  In the
meantime, try to get some sunshine, try to remember to take your vitamins,
take long soaks in the tub and listen to beautiful music.  These simple
things do help.  And know that you have more people who care then you can
imagine.

Kakki

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