On 3/28/2007 12:39 PM, Christian Seberino wrote:
Tell me what you think of the original link. I'd be curious to hear your
thoughts on it.
http://bobsiegel.net/skeptics.html
(then select "Bible" link and last question of the FAQ)
I read some of it. He's applying a standard/viewpoint/ruleset for
relationships that I don't subscribe to and don't live by.
This is an example of how having these discussions isn't going anywhere.
. I can see where he's going and stopped reading where our assumptions
diverge. Here's an example of a place I differ:
“For how long? Are you committed for life?
No
Do you love her unconditionally?
No
Or do you only love her until someone more attractive comes along?
That depends on the extent of our love for each other. If it wanes
enough, others will start to look attractive to each of us.
Until you grow tired of her or until she displays some weakness that you
don’t want to live with?
Yes, but I'd change "weakness" to "characteristic". And the same applies
to her.
Are you willing to someday leave her, this woman with whom you became so
intimate, this person who made herself so vulnerable to you as she
expressed her sexuality?
Yes each of us would given some circumstances. No one has asked how
likely that might be. Each of us at this point would each say "Very
unlikely." But I said the same thing with my first wife; hence I also
say "You never know."
Could you someday desert her and devastate her by breaking her heart?”
No. (Here's another "when did you stop beating your wife" statement). Of
course, when people break up it can be devastating and hezrtbreaking. If
it's going to be you do your best to avoid it. What he's suggesting
aren't the conditions under which we'd break up.
Karl
P.S. A problem with discussions like this is that some people's moral
standards don't accept as OK widely divergent moral standards between
people. Differences acceptable to one can't be tolerated by others. It's
the disparity in tolerance that's the problem.
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