"... On Apr 9, 12:28 pm, Molly Brogan <[email protected]> wrote: ..."
> > Perhaps it does matter. Boys and men tend to be more sexually > > aggressive than girls and women, > > I do not agree, and think this may be your opinion. In my experience, > girls acting out sexually are just as aggressive. I advocated for > children during the first ten years of my professional career, and > have some experience here. I agree, that is my opinion based on a lifetime of experience, just as your statement is an opinion based on your experience. There are no absolutes in this area ... nor in many areas we discuss here. > > Nor does a child acting out sexually necessarily indicate a sexual > > violation or abuse has taken place. > > Again, I suspect that this is your opinion, and suggest you get more > information and experience in the matter. You are blaming the victim > here. Again, yes it is my opinion. But are you suggesting that my opinion is any less than your own? As regards blaming the victim, I'm not. That is your perception of my words which again is your opinion. As I said, I am not blaming anyone. I am merely stating observations and my opinion of them. I try to be as non-judgmental as possible. > > As to whether that acting out would justify a response, well, in > > today's emotional and irrational mindset many have regarding the > > issue, I'd have to say there would be no justified response because it > > would do no more than to place the child in the emotional chains of > > shame, guilt and despair. > > one good step As I said, in TODAY'S EMOTIONAL AND IRRATIONAL MINDSET .... > > But I can conceive of a much healthier > > environment where it would possibly be permissible to respond in > > kind. It just doesn't exist at this time. > > As Francis suggests, this kind of interaction with children interferes > with their psychological development. I'm sorry but you can't know that with any certainty at all outside of today's mindset. It is not an absolute and who knows what the future may bring. I can hear similar screaming and ranting not that long ago regarding same-sex relationships, yet here we are today with several states, including some very conservative ones approving same-sex marriage. > A healthy environment provides safety and support for children. Yes it does and that does not preclude a sexual environment (except in today's dysfunctional world.). > There is no response by and adult in > kind that would not traumatize them further except respectful refusal > of sexual interaction and support of the psychological process that > brings the child to the moment and perhaps the psychoanalysis that > would allow them to move beyond the behavior into a more self > respecting frame of mind. Again, this is but your own opinion. There are many who do not believe it to be so. As a further aside, how do you know that the rejection by 'respectful refusal" would not cause the child trauma as well. And why do you see a child's sexual curiosity to be a form of self- disrespecting behavior that requires psychoanalysis? I think you can't deal with this issue objectively, Molly. Perhaps you suffered some trauma in this area yourself and it is clouding your mind. --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/Minds-Eye?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
