Allan already admitted he was using it as a way to tell Gabby to grow up. If you call a grown woman a big girl or girl, it is demeaning because you are implying they are immature or not as intelligent. If you call a three year old a big girl, they may appreciate you noticing that they are growing up. No brainer.
On Sunday, March 8, 2015 at 12:15:27 PM UTC-4, Chris Jenkins wrote: > > Hold up, now, there has to be SOME understanding of colloquial use of > language if there's any hope to achieve common ground. "Big boy" and "Big > girl" are very much colloquial ways to describe someone who is grown up and > capable of taking care of themselves. It's not specifically gendered for > the purpose of gender, and it's not the same casual usage of "girl" which > causes offense to those sensitive to such. > > The language police have become much more aggressive, I see. > > On Sun, Mar 8, 2015 at 12:07 PM, Molly <[email protected]> wrote: > > Allan, calling a woman a girl is well known to be gender insensitive. If > you don't think so, suggest you brush up or this may not be the last time > you are called out for it. If indeed we are all supportive for human > rights, we can bring ourselves to be sensitive to what the other feels when > bearing the brunt of our words. Here in the states, calling a man a boy can > get you in a great deal of trouble depending on the color of your skin and > the region that your feet are currently planted upon. Words do matter, and > claiming what is said is said in jest or is insignificant is an age old way > to discount the reality of inequity, and always shows itself to be exactly > what it is to people with attitudes that truly support human rights. So > many of our words come to us through social conditioning, we don't > understand the origin or inequity. It is incumbent on each of us to try. > Tolerance of biased or abusive attitudes creates cultures of inequity. > > > On Sunday, March 8, 2015 at 11:59:10 AM UTC-4, Allan Heretic wrote: > > To me all " big girl " is saying is she is an adult and of female gender.. > nothing more.. unless may be grow up. No different some one telling me I > am a big boy.. > > But if i say the sun is shining Gabby is offended.. if she is offended i > will stop using it.. > > تجنب. القتل والاغتصاب واستعباد الآخرين > Avoid; murder, rape and enslavement of others > > -----Original Message----- > From: Molly <[email protected]> > To: [email protected] > Sent: Sun, 08 Mar 2015 4:38 PM > Subject: Re: Mind's Eye Re: We are going backwards. > > Also, I have to go with Gabby on this one. Calling her a big girl is > gender insensitive and demeaning. > > On Sunday, March 8, 2015 at 11:27:40 AM UTC-4, Allan Heretic wrote: > > I am trying to find out why our big girl Gabby is so bothered be me?? Is > Gabby's soul felling a bit guilty over what..that is a real question.. > > تجنب. القتل والاغتصاب واستعباد الآخرين > Avoid; murder, rape and enslavement of others > > -----Original Message----- > From: archytas <[email protected]> > To: [email protected] > Sent: Sun, 08 Mar 2015 4:16 PM > Subject: Re: Mind's Eye Re: We are going backwards. > > Do you have false teeth by any chance Gabby? If so, could you have a > second set made, then you could leave them in situ after biting his ass, > and save the rest of us from the thiedium? > > On Sunday, March 8, 2015 at 2:05:11 PM UTC, Gabby wrote: > > Big girl - that's not my wording, not my style, not how I view myself. > It's true, I was trying to make a constructive suggestion to get us out of > your barking at us and twisting our words to draw the focus of attention to > your soul perspective. Can you think of another solution so we others do > not have to constantly feel attacked? > > Am Sonntag, 8. März 2015 schrieb : > > If you want the topic opened, open it Gabby. You keep telling me you are a > big girl.. > > تجنب. القتل والاغتصاب واستعباد الآخرين > Avoid; murder, rape and enslavement of others > > -----Original Message----- > From: gabbydott <[email protected]> > To: "[email protected]" <[email protected]> > Sent: Sun, 08 Mar 2015 2:34 PM > Subject: Re: Mind's Eye Re: We are going backwards. > > Soul is a place holder for "guilty conscious" in this context here, I > suppose. I suggest you open a thread with the header "soul" and you collect > all the different meanings you have identified us others associate with it. > We would also profit from it by being able to go there when in need of > translation options for your "soul" usage. And you could be sure it was > your very own translation that is being used by the others. What do you > think? > > Am Sonntag, 8. März 2015 schrieb : > > When people do wrong knowing they justify it because their soul knows it > is wrong and they should not be doing it. > > تجنب. القتل والاغتصاب واستعباد الآخرين > Avoid; murder, rape and enslavement of others > > -----Original Message----- > From: RP Singh <[email protected]> > To: Minds Eye <[email protected]> > Sent: Sun, 08 Mar 2015 8:57 AM > Subject: Re: Mind's Eye Re: We are going backwards. > > Sure Allan, but these criminals seek excuses to justify themselves to > others and themselves. As a matter of fact there is no excuse for any crime > and a criminal has to bear the consequences of his act. > > On Sun, Mar 8, 2015 at 12:02 PM, <[email protected]> wrote: > > There is no justification for rape in any form or of any gender. > > تجنب. القتل والاغتصاب واستعباد الآخرين > Avoid; murder, rape and enslavement of others > > -----Original Message----- > From: RP Singh <[email protected]> > To: Minds Eye <[email protected]> > Sent: Sun, 08 Mar 2015 3:36 AM > Subject: Re: Mind's Eye Re: We are going backwards. > > The women dressing sense developed in the west gradually and it was not > copying others but an indigenous matter and as it was a gradual process the > western society as a whole was able to accept it. But in India it was not > so, some educated girls started copying the west and Indian society as a > whole was not prepared for it, and that is the reason that some backward > sections of our society find it unacceptable, but still it has nothing to > do with rape, which is a criminal act and done by criminal people. The > reasons that such people give for it is just a justification for their > criminal deed and not the real reason. > > On Sun, Mar 8, 2015 at 6:21 AM, RP Singh <[email protected]> wrote: > > The argument that there are rapes in India because girls are not raised up > as equals with comparison to boys is not correct. If today girls are > entering into the workforce is not as a result of girls asserting > themselves but because their families are giving them a chance to make a > career for themselves. The parents, brothers, and husbands are co-operating > with the girls, they are encouraging the girls to go out and become career > girls and this is not limited to just the urban population but also > applicable to villagers. Consider the position of women a few centuries > back in Europe and America, they were just housewives and were not > encouraged to become doctors and engineers. India was an occupied coun > > ... -- --- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to [email protected]. For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/d/optout.
