I really love the idea of throwing 20 dollar bills...and losing the nagging
suspicion of being bilked by friends.  This year though, after 3 trips to
India on my dollar, I'm feeling very stingy. No coffees outside for one
year, haha and dining out only once a month. Or inviting people home!

El mié., 24 ene. 2024 8:57 p. m., Christopher A Kantarjiev via Silklist <
[email protected]> escribió:

> An astonishingly number of years ago (before I met Udhay!), I was part of
> a group that met at the same venue for lunch every Thursday. At least one
> other silklister was part of this group, from time to time.
>
> The venue was always the same, but the people who attended came and go.
> Alcohol was involved, and not everyone drank. Some people drank a lot. The
> number of people who attended varied by as much as 50%. The bill was not
> split.
>
> After much faffing about at the beginning, the rule became "throw twenty
> dollar bills at the bill until it goes away!". The finer print: if you feel
> like you paid too much last week, be a little slower this week.
>
> This was ... a revelation to me. It completely changed my attitude around
> this kind of problem, and somewhat around money in general - from an
> attitude where every penny mattered to realizing that the pennies, and a
> few dollars, didn't really matter at all.
>
> I was, I admit, at a point where a few dollars *didn't* matter. But I
> hadn't shifted my mental model to realize this.
>
> I realize that this won't work for everyone. Overall, this experience made
> me a more generous person, and I'm (still) glad of it.
>
> On 1/24/24 7:45 PM, Udhay Shankar N via Silklist wrote:
>
>
> This is a topic that comes up every now and again. Speaking as someone who
> regularly organizes group meetups,
>
> 1. We usually split the bill evenly, because (at least as far as food is
> concerned) the entire table ends up sampling whatever is ordered.
> 2. The people I tend to meet with tend to order things which are roughly
> similar.
> 3. Liquor is where this model faces challenges. A teetotaller (or even a
> beer drinker, such as myself) might feel hard done by, if asked, on a
> regular basis, to partly subsidize someone ordering much more expensive
> spirits.
>
> The solution isn't easily achieved. At least in India, separate checks
> aren't the norm, and most POS systems aren't set up for it. Also, keeping
> track like this is a tedious and mood killing chore at the end of a
> pleasant evening.
>
> What are the thoughts of the hive mind?
>
>
> https://www.businessinsider.in/policy/economy/news/splitting-the-check-is-no-longer-restaurant-etiquette-in-2024-its-every-diner-for-themself/articleshow/107123596.cms
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