For purposes of my "Grandbaby reference and time to procreate" ratio, I'm 33 and 7 months. Five years until the blessed event. Time to start shopping now! Buy all sorts of gifts for my lil' demonspawn!
As for me, I don't hate kids overall; I just hate most people with kids...so I end up hating the kids by proxy. There are certain WARNING - here's that word again - "lifestyle" changes I would have to make in order to be a good father and husband, and I don't think I'm ready to make them yet. I'm not talking about anything grotesque, gooey or illegal, but little quirks and impulses that I enjoy. Random roadtrips to the country, going to rock concerts, saying out until all hours of the night, making a midnight run to Philadelphia for a good cheesesteak, thrice-a-decade bouts of wanderlust which make me pack up stakes and move to a new city, shopping at Wegman's 30 minutes away even though I live near a couple of crappy Giants and a Safeway that was last cleaned in the Carter Administration. Spontaneous bike rides along the river. I know I could do almost all of those things with kids - and I swear to God/Buddha/FSM that any child of mine will know the Replacements before the Wiggles - but it's not a major concern of mine to replenish the species. Now, going through the motions of replenishing the species...heh. I'm also glad to be male, where certain time-crunching elements are less of a concern. My dad was a fertile lil' bugger (just ask any of his ex-wives and girlfriends - his seed was strong), so it's not as much of a deal. If I get married, have kids, not get married, no kids...it doesn't really matter. I'm still living my life until someone or a brick to the forebrain tells me otherwise. As for what your mom is saying to you, Ellen, that sounds like a classic "switcheroo" technique. Your mom obviously wants what's best for you, and she thinks the love of a good partnet (or several average ones) would make your life easier. She also thinks it would become easier for you to get knocked up then, either on purpose or by accident. I see how she thinks. She's a master chess player :) --- In [email protected], "Ellen" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > How old are you now? You probably said, I can't recall. Just > wondering how long between your current age and 38 and 7 months, > because 38 and 7 months is about a year younger than I am now. My > parents haven't verbally expressed their desire for grandchildren from > me per se too often, probably because they already have 2 from my > brother, who of course is younger, has a wife younger than him, and is > significantly more financially well-off than I will ever be. "Goody" > for those of you who recall an earlier thread met all my parents' > expectations. Whether he met his own or not I couldn't tell you. Me, > on the other hand, not so much. Point being, whether or not I meet MY > OWN expectations is not nearly as important as whether I'm meeting > theirs, to them. For my mom, it's more an issue of getting married > and having someone to support me or improve my standard of living or > whatever, rather than grandchildren specifically. If I would only get > married I wouldn't have to struggle so much to make it on my own, blah > blah blah. So out of curiosity, is getting married/having kids high > priority in your life, or if it happens fine, if not, also fine? > > Even when you do get married people start asking when you're having > kids. What if you're having trouble getting pregnant? What if you > want to just enjoy being married? What if you haven't decided? What > business is it of yours? > > > Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/weingartenchatters/ <*> Your email settings: Individual Email | Traditional <*> To change settings online go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/weingartenchatters/join (Yahoo! ID required) <*> To change settings via email: mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
