Mayka, Very good post! Especially the part about being defensive and how we can judge our reactions as a medium of our practice. The less we practice, the more subject we are to our emotions!
My problem here (along with my lack of practice!) has been a lack of respect. 98% of us can have discourse, agreeing or dis-agreeing in what each of us may post. But there is always that 2% that show a lack of respect for others. It is an insight into one's nature, as well as a product of one's upbringing. If one has not learned to deal with others respectfully by the age of adulthood, they probably never will. Thank you Mayka, Bill!, Mike, Anthony, Jody, JMJM and Edgar, (among others) who have shown your respect in the face of disagreement and ignorance. And to the 2%, I hope you at least find peace within. RESPECTFULLY, Chris --- In [email protected], "Mayka" <flordel...@...> wrote: > > Al, > > I see no wrong of posting what is in your mind, what are you feeling > or what is really in you...In fact one of the things I like the most > on this website is precisely that we talk about what is really in us. > Don´t worry about it. However, it´s perhaps important to be aware of > the effect words can have in the mind of the readers. Let´s not > forget that it is not the same to be face to face than to be in a > website where we don´t have a face to face direct contact and > therefore words are opened to multi interpretation depending upon our > own mental state at the time of receiving them. > > Words carry in them energy positive or negative. Only one word can > heal or destroy. They have an equal impact from the one who express > them as to the whole universe. Our mental state determine our way of > expressing oneselves. Before any word comes out of our lips, there > is a thought. Before a thought takes form there is a mental state. A > sensation, an emotion, a mental formation... > > As an strongly emotional person I am, the internet is often a > challenge to tame myself emotions. I used to be very defensive, still > am, when somebody said something I didn´t like it. But slowly slowly > I take the internet and groups as a medium of practice. It doesn´t > mean that everyone else has to do the same. It helps me to > acknowledge in a deeper way what is in me. > > Your choose to shot straight away what are you thinking or feeling. > There is nothing wrong with that either if you feel the need of doing > so. For instance I can see through your question of asking me if I > was menstruating that you were annoyed with post and also that you > genuinely was wondering if my post was motivated by the mental state > produced by the crazy hormonal disturbancies, we women have once a > month. Nothing wrong to ask that for as long as your thoughts were > genuine at the time of the question and not deffensive. > > Am I making any sense to you or am I losing myself in too many words?. > Whatever it is here it goes carrying good intentions and gratitude for > your website. > > Have a good day > Mayka > > > > > > > > --- In [email protected], "fitness4u2163" <fitness1963@> wrote: > > > > "fitness4u2163" <> Are you having your period?> > > > > Sorry for being so crude. I should not post what I am thinking. > > > ------------------------------------ Current Book Discussion: any Zen book that you recently have read or are reading! Talk about it today!Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Zen_Forum/ <*> Your email settings: Individual Email | Traditional <*> To change settings online go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Zen_Forum/join (Yahoo! ID required) <*> To change settings via email: mailto:[email protected] mailto:[email protected] <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [email protected] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
