ok, but even stepping away a bit is good... I know you have pressing problems but if you get away a bit you can come back to them refreshed. Maybe you *should* read Harry Potter... nothing like uncomplicated villains and solvable problems.
Alternatively, you might try a little volunteer work. This doesn't have to be huge amounts of time, but I find that working on a different set of problems for a while is almost as good as a break, and when it's something as simple as say, talking to that homeless crazy person in the art studio for a few minutes, I am often humbled by the problems I am blessed not to have. Dana On 7/21/05, S. Isaac Dealey <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > All these things are what I do to cure my periods of > > depression whenever they hit. > > > Try some of these! It might help! :) > > Thanks to everyone for the responses (sorry for making you repeat > yourself Deanna. :) ... If I don't reply to your post specifically, > it's not for lack of grattitude, just trying to address a few specific > thoughts and get on to some other things on my list for the day. > > In particular, a few different people mentioned getting out in the > sun, camping, hiking etc. general outdoor type activities... Part of > the problem with this is that, while I enjoy being outside, I don't > generally enjoy being outside by myself... Tiff is heavy set and has a > bad back, and hiking isn't liable to be a real good activity for the > both of us to engage in together, since it's liable to be painful for > both of us (I'm _waaaaaaaay_ out of shape -- I haven't excercized > regularly since boot-camp which was about 7 years ago, before I got > involved with CF). > > I'm 5'3", ~190lbs -- most of the extra weight is between my hips and > my solar plexus. I've always found excercise to be painful and > unrewarding... and so it's difficult for me to adopt it as a routine, > no matter how much people tell me it's necessary. > > But moreover, getting back to the sun / outside thing... the problem > with hiking or just being outside is that "relaxing" outside isn't > relaxing for me... Lying on the beach != fun. It has the potential to > be enjoyable and rejouventating -- but that potential is only realized > if I'm with a group of friends... The problem is that what's missing > in my life isn't something I can just go somewhere and find -- it's > not something I can run up to the drug-store and buy. What I'm missing > in my life is a community -- a group of friends living nearby, who's > lives are mutually immersed in each other. Our culture (particularly > our technology) has destroyed a lot of this over the years, so that, > while they do still occur naturally in a few places, naturally > occurring communities are no longer wide-spread, which explains my > interest in intentional communities. ( http://www.ic.org -- > www.zendik.org is a good example of a place I'd like to go if I didn't > mind getting arrested ) ... Except that none of them are accessible to > me either -- they tend to fall into two categories -- those which > require an expensive buy-in (which I can't afford) and those which > would require me to give up my career to be involved in their cottage > industry (which would get me arrested). So in lieu of being able to > attain access to an intentional community, I focus the majority of my > energies on my career in the hopes that some day all my hard work will > pay off and I'll be able to resolve the divorce / child-support issue > in a way that might allow me to attain access to an intentional > community. (Because of course, even when I can afford material > posessions, they bring me little or no comfort.) So when I'm trying to > "relax at the beach", I get to thinking about what it is that I really > want in my life (a community) which gets me thinking about why I don't > have it, which gets me thinking about the problems I'm not addressing > in any way by "relaxing on the beach". Hence, "getting more sun" is a > deterrent to resolving depression. > > > s. isaac dealey 954.522.6080 > new epoch : isn't it time for a change? > > add features without fixtures with > the onTap open source framework > > http://www.fusiontap.com > http://coldfusion.sys-con.com/author/4806Dealey.htm > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Discover CFTicket - The leading ColdFusion Help Desk and Trouble Ticket application http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=48 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:165913 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
