For the sunflower seeds, a lot depends on the culture of your company. Where I work, a pretty traditional environment, it would be rude.
Personally, at any company I worked at, I wouldn't want you to show up to a meeting I was conducting and eat sunflower seeds. On the other hand, food at meetings (like coffee and donuts) is a time-honored tradition at most companies. But sunflower seeds are a little different. I would recommend against them. However, I gather some of these new-fangled dot.com type companies do things differently, so maybe there it wouldn't be rude there. Still .... I would recommend against them. Mainly because you may not always work at a non-traditional company, so establishing any level of professionalism you can now will help later. As for the design issues, you probably just have to prove yourself. In any profession it takes time to establish yourself and get people to recognize your talent (and maybe for your talent to mature to the level you think it's already at). I would just be patient. Just last week I was giving some career advice to a young lady my wife and I mentor -- this is what I told her and it's something I've learned after nearly twenty years of working at various companies: Your job is just your job; it's not your life. I used to take a lot of things personally at work and think that things had to be done my way because it was MY CAREER, etc. But you know what, any job is just a job. Chances are you'll change careers a couple of times any way. There are few if anything that comes up at work that is worth stressing over. Office politics and office strife should be avoided. It's just not worth it. Your job is something you do so you have money to enjoy the rest of your waking hours, so you can buy toys and movies and good meals, etc. Your job is not your life. It just makes life possible. If you can learn how to get along with your co-workers in all circumstances, then you'll have a happier life. Let your co-workers take credit for things, avoid blaming any one for mistakes, find ways to make yourself invaluable to both your boss and your co-workers, and you'll be much happier. When a conflict is on the horizon, find ways to diffuse the situation -- avoid criticizing co-workers, don't pass the buck, step up to the plate, look for a solution not blame. I would even recommend reading "How to Win Friends and Influence People." Just my 2 rubbles. H. -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 5:43 AM To: CF-Community Subject: Question about Rudeness? I had another developer same level as me who has been with the company 2 weeks longer then I tell me it was rude to take sunflower seeds to a meeting we had in house. My question is... 1. Was I being rude? 2. Was I being Disgusting? This type of conflict with this person has happened before but with other issues. I feel I am a Web Developer and a Web Designer. He thinks I am only a Web Developer and the three of us in our team are NOT capible of doing the DESIGN work. The other developer and I think I am capible to do the DESIGN work. These issues really bother me. I do not have these problems with ANYONE else. Should I let this bother me and should I do anything about it? Thanks, CFUser - working toward being the best I can. ______________________________________________________________________ Get the mailserver that powers this list at http://www.coolfusion.com Archives: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/index.cfm?sidebar=lists
