I have been involved in building and participating in and running technically-oriented groups for fifteen years. I've seen a lot of stuff.
The most common problem pattern I have seen is the "I'm not touching you" game. To understand what this means, imagine parents driving a car, with two children in the back seat. Child A keeps poking Child B, so the parents instruct Child A to stop touching Child B. A few moments later, things resume, but now Child A says "I didn't touch him, the sleeve of my shirt touched him, you didn't say the sleeve of my shirt couldn't touch him". And away we go as Child A comes up with ever more convoluted technicalities to try to keep harassing Child B while still claiming it "wasn't against the rules". The "I'm not touching you" game is also a favorite of many types of people on the internet. Avoiding it requires policies which contain both affirmative and negative statements (i.e., lists of things encouraged/expected, lists of things forbidden) as well as a certain amount of discretion -- even, dare I say, a vague but probably large amount -- to be left in the hands of whichever person or persons will be responsible for enforcement, so that we don't end up playing "I'm not touching you" until the end of time. That little bit of discretion to step outside the stark technicalities and just bluntly deal with such people makes, in my experience at least, all the difference between a workable and an unworkable policy. So those are things that need to be in our CoC. If they make you uncomfortable, if you don't trust the leaders of this community to handle things fairly and responsibly, if you are chilled, silenced and terrified byt the idea that harassing behavior would result in ostracism from the Django community, then perhaps the Django community is simply not the place for you, because the kind of community we want to have and the kind of community you want to have may not be compatible. -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Django developers" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to django-developers+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com. To post to this group, send email to django-developers@googlegroups.com. Visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/django-developers. To view this discussion on the web visit https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/django-developers/CAL13Cg9k1U6QA8dD3crFh%3D4JvpiDv19WLCUnOJ997DywAdjdCg%40mail.gmail.com. For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/d/optout.
