Quoting Heather Perella <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>: > > [SA previously] > > > The crux of all of this, is - without > > > them wanting to change, they can slide by, hide > > their true intentions, seem all well and such, go > home > > and start getting into trouble all over again. > > [Platt] > > Boy, you nailed it SA. They must want to change. > > Many won't until they hit rock bottom. > > Keep in mind, which is unfortunate, that some > won't change even when they hit rock bottom. The > unmotivated can be even more dangerous, maybe not as > much to others, but to themselves, such as those that > cut themselves or don't care if they refuse life and > any activities for days, and days, and days, and > weeks, etc... Where I work there are some residents > that just give up no matter what we try to do. Even > if we don't consequence them, they'll refuse to follow > routine and they want to sit in the Time Out Area all > day and night until bedtime, and sometimes even after > their bedtime. I can't start their fire. > > > > > [Platt] > > Sounds like many are caught in a revolving door. > > Again, they must want > > to change. > > Yes, this might be the bottom line to any > dialogue. If somebody doesn't want to change, then > let them go and if they get hurt then we did all we > could. The "want to change" is important.
I agree. We can try to help, but often in so doing enable continuance of bad behavior. The bottom line is each individual is responsible for herself and must endure the consequences of her bad choices. Thanks for giving us such a good description of what you have to deal with in trying to rehabilitate these disturbed people. Platt ------------------------------------------------- This mail sent through IMP: http://horde.org/imp/ Moq_Discuss mailing list Listinfo, Unsubscribing etc. http://lists.moqtalk.org/listinfo.cgi/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org Archives: http://lists.moqtalk.org/pipermail/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org/ http://moq.org.uk/pipermail/moq_discuss_archive/
