Why do you only put this in the women’s room? Perhaps you live somewhere where
it’s unusual for a woman to ask a man to dance, but you say your sign goes on
to say to find a dancer you want to dance with. And while I don’t question that
men are more likely to do things to make a female partner
You and me both Ron, we steal from the best.
Bob Green
On Mon, Dec 18, 2017 at 4:33 PM, Ron Blechner via Callers <
callers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
> This thread is great!
>
> I just wanted to throw out props to George Marshall who was teaching at
> the end of his beginner lessons:
This thread is great!
I just wanted to throw out props to George Marshall who was teaching at the
end of his beginner lessons: accepting and declining and moving on with
dance requests - earlier than I can remember other callers doing it. I've
stolen my schtick directly from him.
Ron Blechner
Mary has made some very valid points. It would be good to emphasize that
this is a dance "community", and that all people should be respectful of
others. Many dancers take a "no" as a personal rejection and perhaps even
as disrespectful. This tends to hurt the community as a whole and often
coming late also here, Dale, so stealing your "lesson" comments. We
usually don't directly address the refusal part of the equation as we are
so short of dancers, it's usually exhaustion that sits us out! lol...saying
that...we do encourage new dancers to ask anyone (esp. those that look like
At the dances I've seen/called in and around VT, we don't address this
directly (with signs or such).
I've heard of the practice of sitting after declining, but I don't think
it's a common practice for most folks these days. I'd say it's mostly
fallen by the wayside.
The one time I've seen it
On 12/17/2017 10:55 PM, Claire Takemori via Callers wrote:
Kalia,
At South Bay Contra ( SF Bay Area) we have a sign posted around the hall
(edited from a sign that I got from Pasadena Contra that edited the sign
from Lake City Contra). It says:
When looking for your next dance partner,
Kalia,
At South Bay Contra ( SF Bay Area) we have a sign posted around the hall
(edited from a sign that I got from Pasadena Contra that edited the sign from
Lake City Contra). It says:
When looking for your next dance partner, please know:
Anyone can ask anyone. Don’t wait to be asked.
If
> Although I have occasionally heard of the "rule" that started this
thread, I don't feel that people should ever be penalized for declining
an offer to dance.
Dale
Unfortunately, although the rule in question was well-intended, it did
lead to folks sometimes getting cornered by those they
Great discussion. I'm chiming in late, but my $0.02.
"No thank you. Maybe later." means you have some reason not to dance this
particular dance with this person, but would be open to future offers.
"No thank you." with a friendly smile is similar but less explicit.
The above should cover 99%
Greetings All,
I really like JD's methods. When teaching I do an abbreviated version of
that, but I think I'll expand it to include a _kind_ refusal, and universal
participation during the lesson.
My husband and I are dance organizers, and for several years have been
working hard to make the
On 2017-12-16 1139, Kalia Kliban via Callers wrote:
Hi all,
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To what extent has that earlier etiquette norm either survived or been
replaced, and what has it been replaced with? In your dance community,
do you have a written statement of the etiquette around this? Our
community's
Oh, yes, I remember that rule. If I was asked by someone I really didn’t want
to dance with, and I declined to dance with them, I would sit out the next
dance in order not to hurt their feelings and I had to act as if I was tired or
I wanted to sit it out, all the time wishing that I'd avoided
On 12/16/2017 2:10 PM, Alan Winston via Callers wrote:
BACDS Code of Conduct says:
http://bacds.org/conduct/CodeOfConduct.pdf
"Ask a partner kindly. Accept their answer cheerfully. If you are
repeatedly declined by a prospective partner, it is best to give them
space.
Feel free to decline
I think that person was really saying "no, sorry; I'm a total self-centered
a-hole!"
When doing a beginner session, I cover the basic asking to dance bit and
then say something to the effect of
"You're free to decline for any reason - just say "no thank you" and move
on. You don't owe any
BACDS Code of Conduct says:
http://bacds.org/conduct/CodeOfConduct.pdf
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"Ask a partner kindly. Accept their answer cheerfully. If you are
repeatedly declined by a prospective partner, it is best to give them space.
Feel free to decline a dance with someone with whom you
I employ and teach the method that Angela suggests... but not always. I am
old school enough that I may sit a dance after a refusal of an offer...but
then I rarely refuse an offer to dance unless I really do need a rest or I
have some other obligation. I think George Marshall's presentation in
I think the story you tell is a great reason why the older etiquette of
having to sit out is silly and outdated -- I'd rather someone who doesn't
want to dance with me just say "no thank you!" And continue about their
business.
As a caller, I teach that "yes, thank you!" and "no, thank you!" are
On 12/16/2017 12:01 PM, Alexandra Deis-Lauby wrote:
This is Cdny’s etiquette page. It addresses saying no but not in great
detail in terms of historical practice.
http://cdny.org/what-is-contra/contra-etiquette/
And I hadn't realized until this conversation with my dance friend just
how
This is Cdny’s etiquette page. It addresses saying no but not in great detail
in terms of historical practice.
http://cdny.org/what-is-contra/contra-etiquette/
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> On Dec 16, 2017, at 2:39 PM, Kalia Kliban via Callers
> wrote:
>
> Hi all,
>
Hi all,
Those of us who started dancing 2 or 3 decades back probably remember
the rule about sitting out the dance if you turn down a partner offer.
A very competent male dancer I know who started around the same time I
did (late 80s) recently confessed to me that he never asks anyone to
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