Donna, Thanks. I will keep that in mind. Good words to follow, In fact that is what I am going to do. I have received so much information from this site and I thank my lucky stars it was recommended to me. I feel fortunate and I now have a basis to which I can follow. Lots and Lots of good stuff. And lots of work. Thanks to all you good people. Kait
On Tue, May 4, 2021 at 12:56 AM Donna Casteen <mermaid71...@gmail.com> wrote: > Kait, you are a granddaughter to be admired & treasured. I want to share > my story with you. I lost my vision at age 45 following surgery. Being > thrown into blindness was difficult to accept & have to deal with, > everything was abruptly taken away, my independence, pride, self > confidence, interests/hobbies, the beauty of nature, the smiles on the > faces of family & friends…Everything! I spent 3 years cycling through the > first 4 stages of grief, denial, anger, bargaining & depression, before > finally reaching the fifth & final stage, acceptance. When “I” felt that > “I” was close to putting a stage of grief behind me & move on to the next > stage, someone in my life would say or do something that would set me back. > Even though their comments or actions were said & done with the best > intentions & my well being in mind- I saw the actions as them rushing me to > heal, while showing me that they did not have confidence in my ability to > find “My” own way to do things that would work for “Me.” Like you, my best > friend of 30+ years & my parents felt that it was very important for me to > learn to use a smartphone so that they could keep in contact with me & they > thought that a smartphone would aid in my independence. Learning to use a > smartphone was at the bottom of my “New Normal” bucket list, especially > when my flip phone was still usable & would solve their problem of them > needing to be in constant contact with me, because of their worries of me > being alone. Labeling the microwave, stove, washer, dryer, helping to > organize the kitchen food pantry, the refrigerator, the cleaning & personal > care items was what I needed & wanted the most. Things that would give me a > sense of independence & the feeling of accomplishment when I was able to > prepare my own food, take care of my personal needs & clean my own house. > Why not use a dot of puff paint to mark the answer call & some of the > numbers on the dial pad on her flip phone? get her an AlexaShow & setup > contacts & Alexa calling. The AlexaShow is simpler to teach, easier to > learn to use, being that it works by voice commands & can do almost > everything that her having a smartphone can do. She can make & accept > calls, send text messages, listen to music & books, play games & have items > identified for her. Leave the smartphone with voiceover on with her. Show > her how to turn the phone on & how to charge the phone. Encourage her to > explore the phone alone, let her interest & curiosity guide her, not what > you think that she needs to learn. Be supportive by letting her try to do > things on her own before you offer suggestions, advice or guidance, but do > not step in & complete a task for her, unless she agrees to let you do so. > I do not accept change well. I am stubborn & my pride & self independence > sometimes gets in the way of me asking for help. Once my family & friends > stepped back & let me take the lead in showing what my abilities were, it > made their wanting to step in & help easier for me to accept. Feeling > helpless & useless to oneself & to others is a very dark & lonely place to > be.Don’t forget that your Grandma needs her own sunshine. > > Donna > > My Gran is not a very receptive person, she never was but I respect that > and understand why. At this time we are not set up as maybe you may be and > I wish not to leave her alone without some form of assistance should she > need help when I am not home. I pay for help at the moment but that will > only be for a short time. All things are not in place at this time and I > feel more secure knowing she can reach me. Please understand, I am > pressured to have some form of continuity and safety and having a phone > would be number one priority. I am reaching out to this community for any > form of help it may offer. I hope this explanation will help? > > thank you , > > kait > > > > On Mon, May 3, 2021 at 1:50 PM Star Gazer <pickrellrebe...@gmail.com> > wrote: > > May I ask why? If she’s happy without a phone, she doesn’t need to use > one. > > If she wants BARD books she can get them on cartridges and NLS provides > players so no need for a phone. > > What all does she want to do with the phone that can’t be accomplished by > other means? > > Would an Alexa be easier for her? > > > > I think I’m stuck on what you want, what your grandma wants and why the > phone is so important? > > > > Sent from Mail <https://go.microsoft.com/fwlink/?LinkId=550986> for > Windows 10 > > > > *From: *Kait Forbes <miss.k.t.for...@gmail.com> > *Sent: *Monday, May 3, 2021 1:33 PM > *To: *viphone@googlegroups.com > *Subject: *Re: In need of assistance > > > > Everything is completely new to her, yes. And me as well as it pertains > to the blind community. As far as I am aware, computers are not her > thing. She is aware of them but through me only. I have never been in > this position to teach anyone anything but I am not afraid of constructive > criticism and hard work. She will be a challenge that is for sure. We are > starting from scratch and she refuses at this point to let someone help > her. I know this is her denial stage but if I can get her to just pick up > the darn phone it's a start. > > > > On Mon, May 3, 2021 at 10:40 AM Sieghard Weitzel <siegh...@live.ca> wrote: > > Are you sighted trying to help your almost blind Grandmother and what is > your Grandmother's ability when it comes to technology? > > Has she been using a smartphone and computers when she could still see and > has an understanding abut basic concepts or would it be completely new to > her? Knowing this would probably help a lot when somebody tried to help out. > > > > *From:* viphone@googlegroups.com <viphone@googlegroups.com> *On Behalf Of > *Kait Forbes > *Sent:* Sunday, May 2, 2021 8:37 AM > *To:* viphone@googlegroups.com > *Subject:* In need of assistance > > > > Good morning everyone, > > > > Okay, Let me give you a bit of background. 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