Cheating on your spouse breaks the 10 comandments (coveting thy neighbors wife) as such it is frowned upon because it is a sin. Getting an annulment can be easy or hard depending on what dioscese you live in. In some cases it is not much harder to get then a divorce in others much harder. Ellen why are you asking about this?
--- In [email protected], "Ellen" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > yeah, well, you know, people change, and become alcoholics, and > criminals, and all kinds of fun things. What's the Catholic take on > infidelity and marriage and divorce? If someone is unfaithful in the > marriage can they still not get divorced, or is that grounds for > annulment because obviously the marriage was flawed in the first > place? My understanding is that infidelity in Catholicism is really > bad. It's bad in Judaism too, but worse in Catholicism. Not sure if > this is the case, though. > > --- In [email protected], "dvm8375" > <muellerdana@> wrote: > > > > That's all well and good, Ellen, but in traditional Jewish law, you > > would never be allowed to ask for a divorce; only your husband > > could. My parents were married by an Orthodox rabbi in Israel, and > > when my parents separated, she could file the civil proceedings, > but > > she had to wait several years for my dad to pursue a "get" (he > > finally decided he wanted to remarry). The way she describes it, > it > > was a pretty humiliating experience, down to my (alchoholic, > > abusive) father claiming she was an unfit wife and mother and > > spitting on her. > > > > Before getting married in a Catholic church, the couple has to > > undergo mandatory pre-marriage counseling. Basically, the church > > takes marriage seriously, and wants to do everything to encourage > > couples to only enter the sacrament if they can stick it out, > > therefore making divorce unnecessary. > > > > > > > > --- In [email protected], "Ellen" > > <ellengoodman6@> wrote: > > > > > > Jewish divorce isn't perfect by any means, but at least it > exists. > > > BTW at least originally you didn't have to have a legitimate > > reason > > > to get divorced. You just told your wife you were getting a > > divorce > > > and that was it. Met someone you liked better? No problem. I > > think > > > there should be a happy medium between no divorce for any reason, > > any > > > divorce for no reason, but I would take the Jewish process as the > > > lesser of 2 evils. > > > > > > --- In [email protected], "Max H." <MaxH42@> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > I have found the use/interpretation of the Get by some Chasidic > > and > > > > Lubavicher communities to be as hostile towards women as the > > > practices of > > > > many other fundamentalist religions. I think the difference is > > > that, as far > > > > as I am aware, those two sects don't hold significant political > > > power over > > > > any non-believers anywhere in the world, so their beliefs only > > hold > > > sway > > > > over their adherents, as opposed to some certain fundamentalist > > > Christian, > > > > Muslim, and Hindu sects. > > > > > > > > -Max > > > > > > > > On 6/21/07, Ellen <ellengoodman6@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > Joe Kennedy II's annulment of his first marriage was reversed > > 11 > > > > > years after the divorce, and he has since remarried. in the > > eyes > > > of > > > > > the church he is still married to his first wife apparently. > > What > > > is > > > > > the deal with Catholics and divorce? Jews have had divorce no > > > > > problem since the religion began as far as I can tell. > > Granted it > > > > > hasn't always been equitable between genders and there has to > > be > > > > > legitimate reasons, but it's better than it being completely > > > > > forbidden. Is it because if a divorced person remarries they > > are > > > no > > > > > longer a virgin and therefore somehow sinful? Is it a sin to > > > realize > > > > > after the fact that you married the wrong person or that you > > > simply > > > > > grew apart? Annulment says the marriage was flawed from the > > > > > beginning. If you get divorced after 10 or 15 years that > > probably > > > > > wasn't the case. I apologize for my naivete, but I truly > > don't > > > get > > > > > it. I guess because my religion's take is so totally > > different. > > > > > Jews are like, so you had sex with someone else before you > met > > me. > > > > > That's cool, no problem. You filled out the official > > paperwork to > > > > > end it, that's all that matters. > > > > > > > > > > This is serious stuff--if you get a divorce but not an > > annulment > > > in > > > > > Catholicism and you remarry you are basically committing > bigamy > > > > > apparently. No sacraments, no communion, etc. Can someone > > please > > > > > enlighten me as to the underlying reason for this? Thank you. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >
