http://www.americancatholic.org/Newsletters/CU/ac1002.asp
This gives you the basics of Catholic annulment.
--- In [email protected], "l1ndylady" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
wrote:
>
> Cheating on your spouse breaks the 10 comandments (coveting thy
> neighbors wife)
> as such it is frowned upon because it is a sin.
> Getting an annulment can be easy or hard depending on what dioscese
> you live in. In some cases it is not much harder to get then a
> divorce in others much harder.
> Ellen why are you asking about this?
>
> --- In [email protected], "Ellen"
> <ellengoodman6@> wrote:
> >
> > yeah, well, you know, people change, and become alcoholics, and
> > criminals, and all kinds of fun things. What's the Catholic take
> on
> > infidelity and marriage and divorce? If someone is unfaithful in
> the
> > marriage can they still not get divorced, or is that grounds for
> > annulment because obviously the marriage was flawed in the first
> > place? My understanding is that infidelity in Catholicism is
> really
> > bad. It's bad in Judaism too, but worse in Catholicism. Not
sure
> if
> > this is the case, though.
> >
> > --- In [email protected], "dvm8375"
> > <muellerdana@> wrote:
> > >
> > > That's all well and good, Ellen, but in traditional Jewish law,
> you
> > > would never be allowed to ask for a divorce; only your husband
> > > could. My parents were married by an Orthodox rabbi in Israel,
> and
> > > when my parents separated, she could file the civil
proceedings,
> > but
> > > she had to wait several years for my dad to pursue a "get" (he
> > > finally decided he wanted to remarry). The way she describes
it,
> > it
> > > was a pretty humiliating experience, down to my (alchoholic,
> > > abusive) father claiming she was an unfit wife and mother and
> > > spitting on her.
> > >
> > > Before getting married in a Catholic church, the couple has to
> > > undergo mandatory pre-marriage counseling. Basically, the
church
> > > takes marriage seriously, and wants to do everything to
encourage
> > > couples to only enter the sacrament if they can stick it out,
> > > therefore making divorce unnecessary.
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > --- In [email protected], "Ellen"
> > > <ellengoodman6@> wrote:
> > > >
> > > > Jewish divorce isn't perfect by any means, but at least it
> > exists.
> > > > BTW at least originally you didn't have to have a legitimate
> > > reason
> > > > to get divorced. You just told your wife you were getting a
> > > divorce
> > > > and that was it. Met someone you liked better? No problem.
I
> > > think
> > > > there should be a happy medium between no divorce for any
> reason,
> > > any
> > > > divorce for no reason, but I would take the Jewish process as
> the
> > > > lesser of 2 evils.
> > > >
> > > > --- In [email protected], "Max H." <MaxH42@>
> > > > wrote:
> > > > >
> > > > > I have found the use/interpretation of the Get by some
> Chasidic
> > > and
> > > > > Lubavicher communities to be as hostile towards women as
the
> > > > practices of
> > > > > many other fundamentalist religions. I think the difference
> is
> > > > that, as far
> > > > > as I am aware, those two sects don't hold significant
> political
> > > > power over
> > > > > any non-believers anywhere in the world, so their beliefs
> only
> > > hold
> > > > sway
> > > > > over their adherents, as opposed to some certain
> fundamentalist
> > > > Christian,
> > > > > Muslim, and Hindu sects.
> > > > >
> > > > > -Max
> > > > >
> > > > > On 6/21/07, Ellen <ellengoodman6@> wrote:
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Joe Kennedy II's annulment of his first marriage was
> reversed
> > > 11
> > > > > > years after the divorce, and he has since remarried. in
the
> > > eyes
> > > > of
> > > > > > the church he is still married to his first wife
> apparently.
> > > What
> > > > is
> > > > > > the deal with Catholics and divorce? Jews have had
divorce
> no
> > > > > > problem since the religion began as far as I can tell.
> > > Granted it
> > > > > > hasn't always been equitable between genders and there
has
> to
> > > be
> > > > > > legitimate reasons, but it's better than it being
completely
> > > > > > forbidden. Is it because if a divorced person remarries
> they
> > > are
> > > > no
> > > > > > longer a virgin and therefore somehow sinful? Is it a
sin
> to
> > > > realize
> > > > > > after the fact that you married the wrong person or that
> you
> > > > simply
> > > > > > grew apart? Annulment says the marriage was flawed from
the
> > > > > > beginning. If you get divorced after 10 or 15 years that
> > > probably
> > > > > > wasn't the case. I apologize for my naivete, but I truly
> > > don't
> > > > get
> > > > > > it. I guess because my religion's take is so totally
> > > different.
> > > > > > Jews are like, so you had sex with someone else before
you
> > met
> > > me.
> > > > > > That's cool, no problem. You filled out the official
> > > paperwork to
> > > > > > end it, that's all that matters.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > This is serious stuff--if you get a divorce but not an
> > > annulment
> > > > in
> > > > > > Catholicism and you remarry you are basically committing
> > bigamy
> > > > > > apparently. No sacraments, no communion, etc. Can
someone
> > > please
> > > > > > enlighten me as to the underlying reason for this? Thank
> you.
> > > > > >
> > > > >
> > > >
> > >
> >
>
