> Everyone's giving some veyr good advise, > although I don't think that using > firearms is practical.
> Here's my bit, if you're considering > psychotherapy, look at Cognitive Therapy > (ask the person what they follow) - its > been found to be the most effective, > as good as psychoactive drugs used for > depression. A while back Tiff and I did look into counselling -- as a couple... specifically looking for a queer-friendly rational-emotive therapist... and amazingly enough, we found one -- like, the one in a million guy who does couples therapy for poly / non-monogamous couples... and was even a rational-emotive specialist iirc... there was no way we could afford him... > Other things you may want to try, pay > attention to your thoughts. We all have > habitual thought patterns. When you're > depressed these usually are negative, > self depreciating etc. These create and > reinforce feelings of depression and > worthlessness. Something that helps is > to actively dispute these or do things > that are incompatible with those thoughts. The danger for me is not so much self-deprecation or a feeling of worthlessness... I used to have trouble with that, but not really much (if at all) for some years now... Instead my danger now is feelings of futility... I've been dealing with (or rather more accurately completely unable to deal with) my pending divorce and child-support issues for 5 years now... I'm comfortable in my identity -- who I am, what I want -- I know these things about myself -- sexually, socially, spiritually. No problems there. But in 5 years I've not been able to find one avenue or idea that might help resolve the divorce / child-support issues, with the exception of working 2 jobs (a 9-5 salaried "wage slave" job that barely (or almost barely) pays my bills - inclusive of the child-support which is currently ~$30K in arrears) and a 5-12 job trying to produce some kind of software on my own that might potentially generate a secondary income source I could use to help resolve the divorce / child-support issue. Currently the wage from that second job is weighing in at something like 100hrs/$1. s. isaac dealey 954.522.6080 new epoch : isn't it time for a change? add features without fixtures with the onTap open source framework http://www.fusiontap.com http://coldfusion.sys-con.com/author/4806Dealey.htm ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Find out how CFTicket can increase your company's customer support efficiency by 100% http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=49 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:165898 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
