The position on women's emotionality that I favor is one that may be
regarded as evolutionary biological/psychological.
Women have evolved traits and tendencies that enhance Darwinian fitness.
(Men have too, but the traits are different.)
In general, the softer in women traits such as gentleness, refinement,
caring, lovingness, appreciativeness and so on can be very attractive to
men.
On the flip side, a woman's anger and resentment can be a terror to men,
and so serve her in protecting her boundaries from violation. However,
running amok in the use of this power is ill-advised.
Therefore a woman with a huge 'emotional body', both 'positive' and
'negative', is a natural and normal occurrence.
--ED
--- In [email protected], Maria Lopez <flordeloto@...> wrote:
>
Yon and Steve: Awareness of habits have not helped me so far as far as
emotions concerns. I also consider more natural to be just as we are.
We talk about non discrimination or going beyond duality but as soon the
negative emotions of irritation, anger, aggression, annoyance....appear
in one we think that by the recitation of a name or the awareness of the
breathing, walking meditation....will help that to be dissolved. And
perhaps that is so for the moment. But not in the long run my
experience is that we thought to be dissolved it wasn't but submerged
into the store consciousness. Consequently after a while that and comes
back with a greater strenght. There is something that is called
"passive aggression" and it comes out when those unwelcome emotions
arise in one and one tries to dissolve them. I've learnt through the
relationship I have with my boyfriend . who happens not to be a
practitioner to relax and be myself 100%.. Consequently we have moments
of great intensity in all the ways. And it's healthy and very lively
and very real for being oneselves. I consider that if nature gave
us all that bunch of emotions in us may have been for something. Nature
is wise. To me the most important thing is to be oneselves. There
are flowers of all kinds, colors, smells, symetries....and all are
beautiful just as they are. The carnation doesn't want to be a rose and
the rose doesn't want to be a carnation. The carnation doesn't get
angry with the rose because the rose has thorns. They don't know what
is discrimination or duality about. Mayka
