Just because your own personal experience does not bear this out does not mean that many women do not repeat the experience. Very often women who stay for a period of time in an abusive relationship do so because of low self-esteem. Without counselling, their low self-esteem may often lead to a repeat. This was cited to me in a number of situations by therapists who work with abused women in the Abused Women's Program in our county; by the woman who works with abused women through the police in our county. We have been closely connected with a young woman who has been abused for three years by a former foster child of ours. We have been raising their two young children. We have spoken with numerous people about how to help this young woman. These are people in a professional capacity. They ALL have spoken to this young woman's need to get counselling so she will not get herself in another abusive relationship (which she did). You yourself do not cite any sources for your information either...just your own personal experience. your putting you name with a university does nothing to make your information any more convincing than mine.
Furthermore, I do not believe that this service entitles one to belittle or reply disrespectfully to others on this site. If your care to educate with sources yourself that is one thing, but to rudely belittle is another. Take care. Kathy Wright >My experience has been that the abuse follows the abuser, not the >victim. Yes, some women do have more than one abusive relationship, but >this seems to reflect the presence of large numbers of batterers in the >population from which they are able to choose partners rather than some >particular pathology of the woman. What statistics are you referring to >in drawing the conclusion that women will repeat an abusive relationship >pattern? <snip> >It is important not to make blanket statements defining the experience >of battered women without backing up with solid research, so please cite >your sources. > ***End-violence is sponsored by UNIFEM and receives generous support from ICAP*** To post a message, send it to: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To subscribe or unsubscribe, send a message to: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>. In the 1st line of the message type: subscribe end-violence OR type: unsubscribe end-violence Archives of previous End-violence messages can be found at: http://www.edc.org/GLG/end-violence/hypermail/
