--- In [email protected], TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > They're both just theories that we're spouting. Probably > NEITHER is correct. Like I said, I'm not trying to sell > mine. I'm just putting it out there for others to bounce > off of. > > Unc
OK. I'll bounce this ball. Let's say somone has lost a loved one. They experience grief. Sometimes it gets pretty overwhelming. Observing, one would say they are the victim of that emotion. Yet, for them, everything reminds them of the person they lost, so it triggers the grief. One possible remedy : Tell me something that doesn't remind you of ____________. Continue until the person feels better. "A" way to unstick the attention. Two days ago I met a guy who had just buried his 13 year old daughter (hit by a car when on her bike). He asked me what he should do with her stuff. I said "Give them to a charity your daughter would have supported." Otherwise, every time he sees her stuff it will tend to trigger the grief. I did Dianetics with a guy who had lost his wife to cancer. He was still very much in it. We ran the incident of the last night in the hospital. Huge amounts of pain and grief came off. It took two nights but he finally felt better. Told me after that he was able to look at pictures of her without feeling sad and could smile and enjoy them. The difference here, IMO, is that if someone continues to go over (put directed attention on) an incident, it will eventually dissolve. If you just put your attention on it without fully confronting it, it does grow stronger and have a negative effect. Per Dianetics, previous painful incidents (including past lives) are the source of negative emotions: handle the incident and the "reactive" condition of the emotion is gone. I agree that one has all emotions available to one at any moment. However, when one is impinged upon heavily by a past incident, it's not so easy to think about something else. Neither am I saying this is the only thing that "works" I've just seen it "work" so many times that I do it and support it. Jeff To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
