> I would be interested to know how the men in your lives are coping with > this arrangement. Are they really into it or have they just accepted > it? > > Sylvia
My husband and I researched together and both wholly agreed that it was best for our family. The evidence is scientifically based and so very clear that co-sleeping is natural and usually best for parents and babe. My dh and I really believe that children are only babies for such a short time that it is worth putting aside our own wants, so to speak, for them. Though we still have sex in bed, at night with our daughter in bed. She has never woken up during. In alot of primitive societies parents have sex and their kids are just use to it, it is a natural part of life. Seperate bedrooms only started when people became richer, before then most families shared a room because it seemed logical ie. they could keep each other warm, they could only afford a house with one room, if that etc etc Our society has become very detached in our thinking about babies and their emotional needs. Up until the 1950's babycare books were recommending sleeping with your babies until they were 6months old, as time went by, the recommended time got shorter and shorter until nowadays when some people recommend against it. A friend of mine and her husband were sleeping with their babe in a side car set up and she was really worried about the "right time" coming up when she would have to move him out of their room......then she met me! lol! I went against everything all the other mums she knew had said, and I told her that we still have dd in bed at 1 1/2(at that time). She loved the idea and they still all sleep together and they all enjoy it. She once told me that she felt blessed by meeting me because it helped her believe in herself and her instincts. My dd is 2 and a bit and I can't imagine trying to put her in her own dark room. I am a very social person and love having people around all the time though and I love sleeping in the same bed as the rest of my family. We have talked about when dd will move to her own room and we just know that she will let us know when she is ready. I know though that DH doesn't just put up with it, he thinks its great and it is a way of life for us. Love Abby -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
