Another aspect of REBT is an attempt to change the shoulds to preferences, (from the REBT faq I mentioned earlier)
REBT has discovered that when people impose rigid expectations on themselves, other people, and the world they are likely to experience unnecessary emotional distress. In REBT, these expectations are expressed as absolutistic "shoulds," "oughts," and "musts." For example, "I should be successful in important things I do at work" can get you into emotional hot water when you make mistakes or fail. REBT affirms the value of achievement, but helps clients give up their demandingness for total success at all times. REBT advocates instead a more preferential system of values: one which encourages people to work toward their professional goals, but never to condemn and damn themselves when they fail to achieve them. In a similar way, REBT is useful in helping people from diverse religious backgrounds to be more self-accepting, as well as more accepting of other people who may not share their particular values. regards, larry At 03:49 PM 2/4/03 -0400, you wrote: >IN other words if you're stupid you'll have emotional and psychological >distress when your conclusions etc. don't match the real world? > >-Gel > > >-----Original Message----- >From: Larry C. Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > >You could look at my master's thesis, http://www.lyonsmorris.com/thesis/ >, >it explains some of the theoretical aspects of it. But in a nutshell the > >idea is that irrational or maladaptive beliefs, (i.e., thoughts with >errors >in content or logical structure) are at the basic core of emotional and >psychological distress. > >The web site for the Albert Ellis Institute in New York has some good >links >and explanations of REBT, here's a link to the faq on REBT: >http://www.rebt.org/about/whatisrebt.asp > >regards, >larry > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 Structure your ColdFusion code with Fusebox. Get the official book at http://www.fusionauthority.com/bkinfo.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
