rofl. larry
At 10:00 AM 2/5/03 -0400, you wrote: >*blink* *blink* > >OMG. My GF seems to have all these symptoms. > >I just grouped them all under 'Insecurity'... > >I read this out to her and this was the conversation. > >Her:"Ahhahahha! Oh that's funny! That sounds like one fucked up >person...aaahahhaha!" >Me:"Oh yeah it does! Person like this would be almost impossible to get >along with for very long!" >Her:" Yes! Hehhehehe..Good thing neither of us suffer from these things >hmm?" >Me:"*pause* Oh yeah...eh heh heh...whoo..good thing huh..." >Her:"Print it out for me." >Me:"okies muffins." >*click* > >0_0 > >-Gel > > >-----Original Message----- >From: Larry C. Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] >Sent: Tuesday, February 04, 2003 4:06 PM >To: CF-Community >Subject: RE: antidepressants (was RE: Kid takes OD over his Web Cam) > > >No not that at all. I suggest you look at the FAQ. > >Let me give you an example, and please remember this is a very shallow >example, I am not a practitioner in the field and have not been one for >years. > >you're talking with someone at a party. She suddenly ups and leaves. >There >are basically two ways of handling this, you could condemn yourself for >being an absolutely horrid person who will never get anywhere, and its >awful because no one cares for me etc. Lots of emotional upset here - >absolutist beliefs, and musts - I must have this I must do this etc. > >The other way to look at it, its unfortunate that she did not stay >around, >she missed out on a lot. I think I'll go and have another beer, and meet > >some other new people. > >Its how we let our emotions and certain beliefs rules our lives. You can > >rule them or be ruled by them. Its essentially your choice. >The 12 beliefs that I've alluded to are: > >Catastrophizing The tendency to upset oneself by cognitively escalating > >the seriousness of the situation. > >Guilt Feelings of guilt in oneself and attributions of guilt in others. > >Perfectionism Demands for perfection in all areas of behavior. > >Approval Demands Need for approval from others for value judgements >about >oneself. > >Caring The demand that all people care and help one another. > >Blaming Measures blame and punishment of self and others for mistakes, >sins or wrongdoing. > >Avoidance and Inertia The person's ability to counteract inertia and >avoidance tendencies by accepting difficulties and by working on >unpleasant >tasks. > >Dependence The degree of independence in decision making and >acceptance >of the consequences of one's actions and decisions. > >Downing The tendency to upset oneself by negative self-evaluations. > >Future Concerns The tendency to upset oneself about possible future >misfortunes, irrespective of their probability of occurrence. > >Emotional Control The belief that one's emotions are under the control >of >external forces. > >hth, >larry > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 Signup for the Fusion Authority news alert and keep up with the latest news in ColdFusion and related topics. http://www.fusionauthority.com/signup.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
