No not that at all. I suggest you look at the FAQ. Let me give you an example, and please remember this is a very shallow example, I am not a practitioner in the field and have not been one for years.
you're talking with someone at a party. She suddenly ups and leaves. There are basically two ways of handling this, you could condemn yourself for being an absolutely horrid person who will never get anywhere, and its awful because no one cares for me etc. Lots of emotional upset here - absolutist beliefs, and musts - I must have this I must do this etc. The other way to look at it, its unfortunate that she did not stay around, she missed out on a lot. I think I'll go and have another beer, and meet some other new people. Its how we let our emotions and certain beliefs rules our lives. You can rule them or be ruled by them. Its essentially your choice. The 12 beliefs that I've alluded to are: Catastrophizing The tendency to upset oneself by cognitively escalating the seriousness of the situation. Guilt Feelings of guilt in oneself and attributions of guilt in others. Perfectionism Demands for perfection in all areas of behavior. Approval Demands Need for approval from others for value judgements about oneself. Caring The demand that all people care and help one another. Blaming Measures blame and punishment of self and others for mistakes, sins or wrongdoing. Avoidance and Inertia The person's ability to counteract inertia and avoidance tendencies by accepting difficulties and by working on unpleasant tasks. Dependence The degree of independence in decision making and acceptance of the consequences of one's actions and decisions. Downing The tendency to upset oneself by negative self-evaluations. Future Concerns The tendency to upset oneself about possible future misfortunes, irrespective of their probability of occurrence. Emotional Control The belief that one's emotions are under the control of external forces. hth, larry At 03:49 PM 2/4/03 -0400, you wrote: >IN other words if you're stupid you'll have emotional and psychological >distress when your conclusions etc. don't match the real world? > >-Gel > > >-----Original Message----- >From: Larry C. Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > >You could look at my master's thesis, http://www.lyonsmorris.com/thesis/ >, >it explains some of the theoretical aspects of it. But in a nutshell the > >idea is that irrational or maladaptive beliefs, (i.e., thoughts with >errors >in content or logical structure) are at the basic core of emotional and >psychological distress. > >The web site for the Albert Ellis Institute in New York has some good >links >and explanations of REBT, here's a link to the faq on REBT: >http://www.rebt.org/about/whatisrebt.asp > >regards, >larry > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 Your ad could be here. Monies from ads go to support these lists and provide more resources for the community. http://www.fusionauthority.com/ads.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
