Rose and Lana,
For an unenlightened response, the question can only be answered on a
case by case basis.
For an enlightened response, the answer is 'just THIS' in every moment.
(But that may infuriate the other if he/she is unaware of the rules of
the game that you are playing from!)
--- In Zen_Forum@yahoogroups.com, Rose P <things_r...@...> wrote:
> Good question Lana. It would be great to have more discussion in this
forum about the nitty gritty of dealing with people in the world.