Jody: Why did you hate yourself?. Where did you learnt to hate yourself?. It sounds as a very extreme negative emotion to have towards oneself. Very glad to hear that the readings of the Dalai Lama helped you to overcome the hatred for yourself.
Thanks for writing Mayka *Let's use an example. My father and children at school used to make fun of my butt. They would call me bubble butt, because my butt protrudes out further than most. This was the era where Brooke Shields was the great beauty and she had no butt, and not much of a figure. Just straight. *I was so obsessed with my butt, and hated my body so much, that when I could afford it, at age 35 I had liposuction. But liposuction does mostly the sides of the butt and not the protruding part, which is mostly muscle. Even now, I am grateful that I do not have the kind of butt I used to have, and no longer have to be ashamed of it anymore. *Then, of course, comes along Beyonce Knowles and Jennifer Lopez with huge butts, and suddenly butts are all popular! I am so happy now that I have the butt I have, because now it's socially acceptable. *But yes, that is self hatred to a degree where you are paying someone to cut into your body and remove your flesh. *I think other women, the rate of getting breast augmentation is very high. They feel they are not like women, because their breasts are not huge, and so, go out and get breasts as soon as they are able, like 18, before they've even had a chance to fill in. I knew a woman like this. She was obsessed with her small breasts, finally got her breast augmentation which she said was more painful than childbirth but now is happy as she is a 36C. *I think women are taught to hate themselves, in the US, starting at around ages 8 - 10. Best, Ari --- On Fri, 13/8/10, Jody W. Ianuzzi <j...@thewhitehats.com> wrote: >From: Jody W. Ianuzzi <j...@thewhitehats.com> >Subject: RE: [Zen] EGO >To: Zen_Forum@yahoogroups.com >Date: Friday, 13 August, 2010, 15:50 > > > >Hello Mayka, > >I used to feel the same way. I actually hated myself. Then I was reading a >book by the Dalai Lama and he said that he found the whole concept of people >hating themselves to be so alien and he couldn't understand it at all. > >I started to really think about that and I realized how he was so right. I >was able to break through my own self hate and now I actually LIKE myself. >Of course, when you like yourself you like everyone around you a lot more >too. > >JODY > >
